"It’s akin to standing in the middle of the audio-path of 4 speakers, each playing a different music station." THIS! This is why it's so exhausting!
1:1, I can attune to the person, harmonize, go deep. I have not yet figured out how to make that happen in group dynamics. The best I've done is just toughen up by building up willingness to feel the discomfort in my body in a group.
Thank you for this post and thank you for not making me feel weird and broken by hating groups so much. <3 <3
Alexandra, you get it. "1:1, I can attune to the person, harmonize, go deep" 100% harmonising is the perfect metaphor, that's exactly how it feels internally
i'm glad you don't feel weird or broken, you are so far from that. maybe our power and gift is this ability to attune, and that's just not a group power. there are so many humans - i think if each of us leans into our speciality and excels at our strengths, between us all we create a beautiful living-piece of art called life
This deeply resonated with me and has given me permission to both hang out with friends and new people in smaller groups and write about things I hate. Thank you 🙏🏻
thank you saying so <3 makes writing it x100 more worthwhile to know it left you feeling this way. look forward to reading about what you hate, and finding permission in that in turn
intentionally titled 'hate letter' - part of writing this was practicing expressing anger and some form of hatred. allowing myself to write 'negative' emotions more freely. love that title suggestion, just can't use it this time without changing the original intent
lol at 'dark sexy'
as for 'too many' - yes. in-fact, it's a direct result of having too many projects and in general too much to do. the last weeks have been revelation as i begin to empty my calendar and have more time and space to see people, instead of over-indexing on working
"It’s akin to standing in the middle of the audio-path of 4 speakers, each playing a different music station." THIS! This is why it's so exhausting!
1:1, I can attune to the person, harmonize, go deep. I have not yet figured out how to make that happen in group dynamics. The best I've done is just toughen up by building up willingness to feel the discomfort in my body in a group.
Thank you for this post and thank you for not making me feel weird and broken by hating groups so much. <3 <3
Alexandra, you get it. "1:1, I can attune to the person, harmonize, go deep" 100% harmonising is the perfect metaphor, that's exactly how it feels internally
i'm glad you don't feel weird or broken, you are so far from that. maybe our power and gift is this ability to attune, and that's just not a group power. there are so many humans - i think if each of us leans into our speciality and excels at our strengths, between us all we create a beautiful living-piece of art called life
Loved this, I really resonate with it, and I forgive the implication that you don’t like Terry’s Chocolate Oranges
This deeply resonated with me and has given me permission to both hang out with friends and new people in smaller groups and write about things I hate. Thank you 🙏🏻
thank you saying so <3 makes writing it x100 more worthwhile to know it left you feeling this way. look forward to reading about what you hate, and finding permission in that in turn
might sound nicer to say 'unlove letter', but i totally get the sentiment.
> My favourite conversations, my favourite connections, all happen below the number 3.
3's about my limit too, more and i get fried, often i need to pick the people.
> I’ve felt more than is perhaps my right to feel in a single life-time.
nah come on now, it's obviously all yours 🙂
> Wack like chocolate and orange together.
offensive, i actually call them 'dark sexy' flavours when combined.
> Sometimes, after a particularly draining group session, I find myself thinking humans are social creatures who’ve lost their primary skill.
i'm not a group person either, but when i see people seeming to thrive in groups, it seems like they curate the community/vibe to enable that.
> It’s akin to standing in the middle of the audio-path of 4 speakers, each playing a different music station.
love the metaphor 👌🏼
> I find it hard to see 1 friend for an extended period of time without having to sacrifice seeing others.
somehow similar to 'too many projects'?
thanks, Rosano ❤️
intentionally titled 'hate letter' - part of writing this was practicing expressing anger and some form of hatred. allowing myself to write 'negative' emotions more freely. love that title suggestion, just can't use it this time without changing the original intent
lol at 'dark sexy'
as for 'too many' - yes. in-fact, it's a direct result of having too many projects and in general too much to do. the last weeks have been revelation as i begin to empty my calendar and have more time and space to see people, instead of over-indexing on working